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Linkedin? To What?

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I signed up for LinkedIn at least four years ago.  I find it cumbersome and intrusive.  It was the first social media to initiate contacts for which I saw no relativity to me or my work.  IMO, it is just plain user unfriendly.  Perhaps they’ve improved it, and I’ll go back to look again, but I have not liked LinkedIn up to this time

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March 4, 2013 at 4:57 pm

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To Tweet Or Not to Tweet?

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I haven’t tried Twitter.  I am addicted to Facebookl Twitter scares me.  The thought of learning a whole new way to interact online  — it would just be something else to keep me from doing what I want to do when I sit at the computer.  Plus, I don’t have a smart phone; don’t you need that? I mean, to get any good out of it?  I was happy just to get a phone with a qwerty keyboard 2.5 years ago! 

As instructed for those who don’t Tweet, I went to the website, but there this leg of the journey ended, because you have to sign up, before you can browse.  Nope.  I’ll wait.  I only this morning found out I can search for ‘authors’ on FB.  Think I’ll learn my way around that first!

But thanks for enticing me. 

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March 4, 2013 at 3:26 am

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Blogging by Experience

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My blog is titled:  bibliotherapy4adoption.wordpress.com.  I retired from infant adoption agency work in 2008 and started the blog in June, 2010.  I post my reviews of adoption related books, movies and television programs.  I have so far written when the mood strikes but I want to blog more frequently as a result of a blog challenge!  I keep a list of subjects I plan to write on if / when things are slow.

Initially, I double-posted my blog on FaceBook, but comments in FB unfortunately do not appear on the blog.  My favorite post (and the one that garnered the most responses) was “In a Fog. . .”  about a dream I’d had that left me pondering aspects of my adoptions work.  It’s also one of the shortest!

The most controversial was about a book by a birth father, which I also posted on Amazon. He read my review on Amazon, then began to haunt me on my blog. My point: that his story was important to tell, was lost to him when I said his book would have been better received had he spent time fine-tuning it; I could have been more diplomatic.  I learned that you have to write knowing the author may read your review!  And might misinterpret what you believe you said!

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March 2, 2013 at 8:49 pm

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Exploring Author’s Fan Pages!

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The concept of an author’s fan page is new to me.  I began research on Amazon to find some links to FB fan pages!  I think it’s a great idea, and as I get closer to publication of my books, I will set up a fan page on FaceBook! 

I visited the FB fan page of John Shors, whose historical novel Under a Marble Sky (about the building of the Taj Mahal) we read in my Traveling Book Club about three years ago.  I like the personal tone of his fan page; he is very actively involved.  He has engaged book clubs in developing his success as an author, and I can see how close he feels to his followers.

I also read Phillipa Gregory’s author page on Amazon, another author whose work in historical novels I am familiar with.  Not surprisingly, her page is more formal; she’s a more formal writer.  Although born in Kenya, she was educated in Britain and is a very prolific writer!  Her author page on FB is a little more interactive with her fans, but still, has a stand-offish air.

Another favorite writer is Geraldine Brooks, author of A Year of Wonder, about the bubonic plague in 1666 England, and People of the Book, about the restoration of a (real) Jewish book of ritual and prayer whose distinctly atypical illustrations are explained by researching the book’s history.  She deftly works between characters in three times:  the Middle Ages, WWII and today.  I can see on her FB Author page that this is a good way to build interest in upcoming books and speaking engagements.

Another world has opened to me!

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March 2, 2013 at 8:36 pm

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In a Fog . . .

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I sit at the patio table and watch the sunrise.  I am still caught in my dream . . .

I have returned to The Agency, to visit.  Everywhere I see young mothers with newborns, some with their mothers in tow.  I’ve just come to visit!  There’s a staff meeting;  I open the door  to ask:  “Where’s Jeanelle? Where’s Becky?  I need a pregnancy counselor out here!”  Melissa smiles at me and says, “They aren’t here yet.  I’ll send them when they get here.”  I turn.  A light-skinned bi-racial woman holds her baby; I realize I knew her when she was Black!  I don’t have time to figure this out.  I say, ‘Follow me,” and we head to the conference room, the one with a big table.  There are other mothers and their mothers gathered here, each holds a newborn.  Two men are sitting at the table, laughing and smiling.  “Excuse me, why are you here?” I ask.  The swarthy man turns to me, beaming, says, “We’re Israeli.  We are friends of ____.  They said when we came to the States, we should go to the agency to see where they got their baby!” ( He doesn’t look Israeli; he looks like the East Indian pharmacy tech who hands me prescriptions at Costco.)  “You’re in the wrong place,” I tell him.  “Go back to the front desk and ask for an adoption worker.”  He and his friend vaporize, as possible only in dreams.  A young blond woman holds her baby up to me.  “You don’t have to do another adoption!” I say to her.  “But I promised I would!” she tells me.  I am prepared to tell all these women they are strong, they can mother their own children, they do not have to do another adoption.  Elliot reaches through the dream skin and gently tugs on my big toe:  “It’s 6:30.  Time to make pancakes.” 

 

I sit at the patio table.  I’ve finished my pancakes and my coffee is cold.  I am haunted by my dream. I still have work to do.

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December 18, 2011 at 12:29 am

Just Another tribute to Steve Jobs, adopted person.

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I’m sobered tonight by the announcement of the death of Steve Jobs today. His Stanford commencement speech in 2006 is inspiring and should be seen/heard by more. In it he speaks candidly of his adoption, and how he landed with the family he was given. Watch this You Tube link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1R-jKKp3NA

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October 6, 2011 at 5:40 am

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Review: I Beat The Odds by Michael Oher

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Like many movie goers, I was swept up by the magical story of “The Blind Side” the 2009 movie that brought Sandra Bullock her Oscar for the role of the foster/adoptive mom of Michael Oher, the professional football player for the Baltimore Ravens.  But with many years’ experience in child welfare, I wanted to know the child’s side of the story– and this is the book!  The story of the foster child, nearly homeless, who found the right family to help him reach his goal – to amount to something in spite of his rocky beginning in life.

 As told to Sports Illustrated writer Don Yaeger, this book tells how Michael decided at an early age to resist the streets of Memphis’s poor section, and to find a way out of the ‘hood.  His chosen path was athletics.  He found a way to play baseball, basketball, track and – yes—football and to work to achieve his goal.  His determination shines through this book, and trims away the ‘cutesy’ from the movie.  Yes, Miss Sue is there; yes, so is S. J., the younger brother (who last year emerged as his own man in the field of basketball) and Collin (the sister whose life revolved around cheerleading),as well as the parents, Sean and Leigh Ann – all the characters from the movie are there, but Michael is clearly the star of this telling of his story.

 Which is as it should be.  He encourages other children of the ghetto to hold onto their dream — that they CAN amount to something in a positive way.  I gave the book to a young client fighting her way to respectability at age 17.  Her review was:   “This is better than the movie!  It tells the ‘real’ story!” So take it from me and Lupita:  This is a great book for teens!

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August 27, 2011 at 6:07 am